We welcome to the blog my friend Eliel Cruz today. Eliel is a bisexual Christian covering bisexuality for The Advocate and it is co creator associated with Intercollegiate Adventist GSA Coalition. Eliel often writes from the subjects of sex, religion, and news in the Huffington Post, trust Out Loud, and Mic. You are able to follow Eliel on Twitter or on Facebook.
â€œAre you full blown homosexual yet?â€
My pal, who I’dnâ€™t noticed in years, asked me this relevant question at least five full minutes into our meal date. I became getting excited about getting up, nevertheless the relevant question had been such as for instance a punch into the gut. Not was I excited to see her. During our change from teenager years to adults, she evidently hadnâ€™t changed her misconceptions on bisexuality. Like her misconceptions, my identification hadnâ€™t changed either.
Bisexuality is misinterpreted by both the gay and communityâ€”and that is straight even less grasped when you look at the Christian community where sex is usually limited by binary straight/gay and male/female.
When youâ€™re bisexual, gender is not a determining element in intimate attraction. Bisexual activist Robyn Ochs has a widely used meaning saying, “I call myself bisexual that I’ve in myself the possibility become attracted â€“ romantically and/or sexually â€“ to folks of several intercourse and/or sex, certainly not in addition, certainly not in the same manner, rather than necessarily into the exact same level. because I acknowledgeâ€
We never recognized as homosexual. We was raised convinced that you truly had to prefer to get right or homosexual, never ever realizing that sexuality and sex is extremely fluid.